Is F.E.A.R – The Real Reason You’re Still Single?
If you are a single woman who desires marriage, keep reading because I’m about to tell you the real reason you might still be single.
“People who have been single for a long time are usually the hardest to love because they have become so used to being single, independent and self-sufficient that it takes something extraordinary to convince them that they need you in their life.”
That’s a post I shared on my social media platforms that received many comments from women who agreed to what it said.
But what about you, the one reading this blog, does it resonate with you?
The Real Reason You’re Still Single – Fact or Fiction
It’s evident that the post is a reality for many single women today who desire marriage, but instead of meeting marriage-minded men they keep meeting marriage-blinded men which keeps them on the dating merry-go-round for years instead of being where they want to be; sailing on the cruise ship of love.
As a professional coach who empowers women in life and love, I’ve had the pleasure of working with countless single women and over the years, I’ve learned there is one common denominator with the single women I’ve worked with that was keeping them from getting their h.e.a., gurl, that happily ever after.
You know, that knight in shining Armor, living in the house with the white picket fence…..maybe you don’t see your knight riding in on a horse, or living in that beautiful country home that’s surrounded by a white fence, but however you see the man of your dreams sweeping you off your feet, there is one single reason that might be keeping you single, and YOU must rid yourself of this thing before you will ever get your h.e.a.!
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Like my client Margaret who said, “Women who sleep with biceps and triceps every night don’t understand the struggle of a single woman. They want to tell you, “Be patient, he’s coming.’ My relationships were doomed from the beginning, but I kept trying to make them work, because I kept having birthday, and each year I was single was another chance for some family member to say, ‘Girl, you ain’t married yet? What’s wrong with you?’ You try to hold on to hope and believe what they’re saying is true, but with each birthday, that sparkle of hope turns into a shimmer .”
Margaret was dealing with this issue too, that is, until I helped her through the pain she was dealing with. Now she walks in confidence, knowing who she is. After going through my coaching program, Margaret learned how to face the fears of her past by embracing what she went through. Being able to identify the path that led her to the decisions she made allowed her to see the value in each and every obstacle she faced and conquered. Once Margaret was freed from the bondage that came with living in the past, her eyes were awakened to who she was becoming: the confident, clear, and committed woman she always wanted to be. Margaret is now married to her soulmate.
What Is The #1 Reason You Are Still Single!
So what’s keeping many single women from getting the love they desire? Fear. A few weeks ago I posted a question on one of my social media pages, “Name the top three things you struggle with being single?” and the answers started pouring in.
Five Signs Your Relationship Is Based On Fear Rather Than Love
I snagged these great truths from an article I read by Matt Valentine and you can read the entire article here 5 Signs Your Relationship Is Based on Fear Rather Than Love and I’ve listed the five signs below, but what stood out to me is when he said, “However, if your relationship is based on fear then it’s an entirely different story. Both unhealthy and dangerous, a relationship based on fear is one where the fearful live with stifled potential and a suppressed spirit. It bleeds into every facet of your life and turns you into a shadow of your former self.”
I absolutely agree with what he said. Fear will cause you to be in a relationship accepting the unacceptable.
Fear will cause you to be in a stagnant relationship that is not flowing or going anywhere.
Fear will cause you to be in a relationship where there is no hope or trust and a relationship without trust is like a car without gas; it’s not going anywhere.
Fear will have you believe you don’t deserve better, but you do!
How to Overcome Relationship Fear
The above list is all emotions underlined in fear and that my sister seems to be the number one reason many women who desire marriage are still single, but if you are ready to conquer fear and increase your confidence then click the link below and get the guided journal and video training to help you break free of whatever might be holding you back from receiving the love you desire.
While reading an article by Robin Hoffman, titled, Embracing Fear In Relationships–And Learning To Use It As A Tool, she stated, “I am so excited to be living this life and so excited to have met this man — I could call it fear or I could reframe it into something else. It isn’t the love and happiness I am sacred of… it’s some hypothetical situation that I have allowed fear to create in my mind.”
Yes, kudos to her for reframing fear, what I like to call false evidence appearing real.
You have the power to reframe your thoughts which will, in turn, reframe your relationship.
I know because my own relationship is thriving and not just surviving because of the power of my words.
Dear sister, if you’re allowing fear to run and ruin your relationships, then click the link and discover just how powerful your next relationship can be or even your current relationship.