I’m tired.  I’m broken.  I’m hurt.  No matter what I do it seems like nothing works for me.

I’m tired of stressing.  I’m tired of fighting.  I’m tired of trying and getting nowhere.

I’m barely holding on!

Years ago I was in a toxic relationship with a man I thought loved me, but I later found out he didn’t love me he loved how I made him feel.

He loved the fact that he could lie to me, cheat on me, and do whatever he wanted to do and I still came back.

He gave me an STI. Not a sexually transmitted illness, but a sexually transmitted illusion.

Yes, I believed him when he told me it was me and him. I believed him when he told me there was nobody else even when I knew deep in my heart there was somebody else.

I believed everything he told me because I lost myself in him and my worth was based on what he said because nobody ever told me I was special. I was pretty. I was smart. Even though I was all these things I never heard it from the right people.  Always from the wrong person and so I fell for the illusion.

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But it was not until I found the strength to walk out of that ungodly relationship that I realized how could he love me when I didn’t even know how to love myself.

I confused sex with love and attached my worth to how he made me feel.

I didn’t know who I was because I believed everything he said about me.

When I left that ungodly relationship my self-esteem was at an all-time low.

Who am I? What do I want? I didn’t have the answers to any of these questions because I was connected to the sexually transmitted illusion I had lived in for far too long

I went to a woman I trusted and told her what was going on and she helped me find myself.

I lost my identity trying to be somebody’s everything who was being my nothing.

I was his play toy and when he was tired of pulling my strings, he went and got himself another toy.

How did I recover my low self-esteem? How did I reclaim my identity? How did I rediscover who I was and how did I learn to love myself again?

After all, I believed everything he said about me but I had to learn it didn’t matter what anyone else said about me.  What truly mattered was what God knows about me and what he says about me.

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As a Certified Professional Coach, I help women who struggle to move forward in life and love go from burned out and overwhelmed to living a liberated life.  Overflowing with confidence, beaming with clarity, grounded in a commitment to who they are.

I searched God’s word and found what He says about me and I started building myself up again.

I found out what God’s word says about me and I used it to define who I AM.

I stopped believing the lies of the enemy and eventually my heart stopped hurting.  I was no longer stressed out from trying to please somebody that couldn’t be pleased.

I was no longer tired of trying and getting nowhere.  I was no longer a broken woman and guess what, I attracted a man that knew what he wanted and I was what he wanted.

How did I go from tired, broken, and hurt to the confident, clear, and committed woman you see today?

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I took the words from the heart of God and I placed them in a box and for one full year I spoke those words of affirmation and confirmation over my life because I didn’t grow up having someone speak the truth of who I was over me.

Every time the enemy brought something negative to my mind I defeated him with God’s word.

I learned how to speak God’s word over my life and I became who He said I was.

I was no longer dating any and every man that asked me out.  I was being intentional and within two years my husband came along.

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If you want something different, you’ve got to do something different.


Whatever problem you are faced with today, whether it be in your health, your relationship, your finances, your emotions; whatever it is you can find the solution in the Word of God.

Take 2-3 days and search the scripture for answers to your problem and place those scriptures in a box and each day pull those scriptures out of the box and speak them over yourself for 30 days.

For example:

The problem:  Lack of finances

The solution:  “And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, when have been given to us in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19 NLT

The solution:  “And God will generously provide all you need. Then you will always have everything you need and plenty left over to share with others.” 2 Corinthians 9:8 NLT

Those are two scriptures you can use to declare the word of God and affirm what he says in and over your life.

Now, I gave you two scriptures, you can find 28 more and every day speak one verse so it gets in your spirit.  Speak it enough so that it starts producing the change you need to see.

The next step is to connect with me via email and at the end of your 30 days let me know your thoughts.

I can’t wait to see the change that takes place not only in your spirit but in your mind as well. 

Join me on my mission of reaching one million women as I endeavor to inspire, inform, and impact the lives of women who desire to have a Godly relationship built on the principles in God’s word. Do me a favor, leave a comment and then share this blog with a friend.
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Dr. Patricia Shaw, Certified Professional Coach
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Dr. Patricia Shaw, Certified Professional Coach

Teaching women who struggle to move forward in life and love how to go from burn out and overwhelm to living a liberated life. Overflowing with confidence, beaming with clarity, grounded in a committment to who they are.

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