“50% of all marriages in which the brides are 25 or older result in a failed marriage.” National Center for Health Statistics
The information provided is very disheartening when you think about the number of men and women who go into relationships with forever on their minds and in their hearts. According to this statistic, the odds are greatly stacked against you when it comes to having a lasting and loving relationship, or is it?
Can you defeat the odds and win in this thing called love? Of course, you can! Regardless of the gloom and doom this statistic paints, your relationship can survive the tests of time.
There are five truths I have executed in my marriage over the last 30 years that have been tested, tried and proven by me and the other happy women I mentor. Executing these truths has kept my marriage sizzling hot in every area. If you’re tired of spinning your wheels and feel like throwing in the towel on your relationship, keep reading. I know this information will help you, and I know it works!
Years ago, before GPS, whenever my husband and I went on a trip, I would get on the internet and map out our directions. Back then, I enjoyed using MapQuest because it would usually give a variety of routes you can take to reach the same destination—some farther, and some shorter than others. Well, I’m married to a man named Michael, and he does not like to take the scenic route. He loves to drive fast and wants to get to our specified destination as quickly as possible without any hiccups. Nevertheless, mapping out our course proved to be quite essential to the enjoyment of our trips and arriving at our destination without rambling and getting lost.
Guess what? Just like I would map out our driving trips, you need a map when it comes to relationship advice. Yea, that’s right! In order for your relationship to work, you must have a detailed and thorough map to keep you from going in the wrong direction. Some advice will get you where you want to go, and some will have you spinning in circles. When you want advice, look for someone who can get you where you want to go with the fewest roadblocks. As a wife of 30 years, I give excellent insight into how I have enjoyed a successful marriage. Great relationships are difficult for many to maintain, and some people don’t understand you have to work at a relationship for it to be successful.
Over the next few days I’m sharing a map I’ve used for the last 30 years, and it has not failed me yet. I know if it is used properly, it will not fail you either.
I’ll be mapping out how you can make your partner feel uplifted, loved, needed and important. This map is not about changing yourself for your partner, but maintaining balance in your relationship so it can flourish like a beautiful flower garden.
Here’s what I live by, and it hasn’t failed me to date. Never take advice from someone who isn’t getting the results you want to experience. If you don’t like what you see in the life of the messenger, then it’s usually best to ignore their message.
You know just like I do, there is plenty of relationship advice for women to help you succeed in the oftentimes confusing world of relationships. It does not matter if you have been involved in the dating scene for years, there is always new relationship advice or dating tips for women—you have yet to learn.
When you’re done thinking like a man as Steve Harvey suggest, follow this detailed map so you can have the insight you need to keep one.
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Dr. Patricia Shaw, Master Relationship Coach
Helping women get clear about what they want, gain confidence to receive it, while staying committed to their values so they can succeed in life and love.