About Me

The Soul Ties Coach

I am a woman who made mistakes in her past, and carried a suitcase filled with unhealthy emotions for many years. At one point in my life I didn’t know how to truly love myself and I allowed others to misuse me. I stayed in a toxic relationship that was ungodly because I didn’t know my worth. My worth was based on the opinions of others because no one ever told me how valuable I truly was.

I carried this weighted suitcase with me everywhere I went unknowingly inviting those with the same issues I had into my world. Oh, but one day, I embraced my past, emptied my suitcase filled with shame, resentment, guilt, hang-ups and hurt and traded it for a life filled with passion and purpose.

When I embraced the pain from my past, I uncovered the plan God had for my life and I NOW walk in the Promise He has for me!

Society tells women to think like a man and act like a woman, but that’s not what God says. When I learned whose I was, I prepared myself to receive the blessing God planned for my life. I got in position and a few years later, my husband came along.

Here’s what I live by and it hasn’t failed me to date. Never take advice from someone who isn’t getting the results you want to experience. If you don’t like what you see in the life of the messenger, then it’s usually best to ignore their message. I share my personal story in hopes of inspiring others to  move from a place of pain and get in position to receive their PROMISE! I share my personal story in hopes of inspiring others to move from a place of pain and get in position to receive their PROMISE!

I am the wife of 29 years to my best friend, Pastor Michael Shaw, and we are the parents of two children.  I hold a Bachelor’s degree in Human Management Services and I am a Certified Professional Life & Relationship Coach specializing in Vision Clarity, Confidence Boosting, and Relationship Empowerment.

As a highly sought-after conference speaker, author, and women’s advocate, I am thankful God uses my past personal struggles with low self-esteem, people pleasing, and not making myself a priority for His glory and Your Inspiration.

As a true conqueror, my heart’s desire is to lead women to the very heart of God so they can possess God’s promises and accomplish great things! My willingness to be transparent in my testimony of conquering my own personal struggles has caused hundreds of thousands to connect with me through social media.

My Journey to Self Love

Life is a journey we all must take. I myself have taken some roads that led me to a dead end; I had to back up and look for a better road to lead me to my destination. Some years ago, as a young wife and mother, I traveled on a road of caring for everyone but myself. I cared for my husband, and I catered to my children. My life was like an old blanket, trusted and true. I was so wrapped up in my family that when I looked in the mirror, I didn’t recognize myself.

What happened to that girl who was full of life and ambition? Where had that good-looking woman gone? Sure, I was going to work and pretending as if nothing were wrong, but deep inside, Patricia was gone. I no longer took time to let Calgon take me away. I no longer loved myself like I used to, which was evident by the 105 pounds I added to my frame over the course of my early married and child-raising years.

Patricia, where are you? Can you hear me? I know you’re in there! But she never answered. I had taken a road which led me to a dead end. Yes, I loved my husband, and yes, I loved my children, but what about Patricia? Who would pour back into her what she emptied out to others?

One day while sitting at home by myself I took a good look at the girl in the mirror, and I did not like the reflection I saw. See, sometimes we have to be alone so we can truly see ourselves in order to know what’s going on. It was that day, in solitude, that I saw myself. Not Patricia the loving wife. Not Patricia the caring mother, but Patricia the individual. I saw a woman who could not say anything positive about the reflection staring back at her in the mirror. I saw a woman worn and torn by the cares of life. I saw a woman who needed healing from the inside out. And I began the journey to finding myself again.

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