You prayed for a job. You prepared for the job by searching the Internet to find out what the company does, but you didn’t stop there. You went on to position yourself to be the best candidate by researching some possible questions they might ask you and recording yourself confidently answering them. All the preparation you put into landing that job paid off, and now you’re gainfully employed. Now, if you’re willing to do all that to get a job, doesn’t it make sense to put the same amount of effort or more into preparing for marriage?
At the age of 41, I went back to college to get a degree. I decided to take online classes because I didn’t want to go the traditional route of sitting in a physical classroom with students my children’s age. So I opted to go online.
The first semester was the most difficult for me because when I made the decision to go back to college, I made a commitment to set aside four hours a day to study for the two classes I was taking every nine weeks. I wanted to make sure I put in the time to get the grades I wanted. The first nine weeks on my new venture, I met weekly with my counselor. One thing he said that stood out to me was, it takes 21 days to form a habit and 90 days to create a lifestyle change. He gave me this piece of advice to let me know that if I hung in there for the first three weeks, I would be well on my way to completing what I started. And guess what? He was right. How was I, a woman in her forties, able to accomplish my goal of earning my college degree? How was I able to stay focused on all those assignments and not throw in the towel when I felt like giving up?
In the first nine weeks of my online education, I learned the purpose of the classroom. The classroom is for making mistakes and learning from those mistakes. If we use the knowledge we gain from the mistakes we made in class, we discover a better way. How did I position myself to receive the love I desired and deserved in marriage? How was I able to shift my thinking after being in a toxic relationship and not take all the dead weight I carried from that relationship into a new one? How did I do it? The same way I got my degree. I went into a classroom and was schooled by some women who had something I wanted: a great marriage. I had a marriage mentor and an accountability partner, and they gave me guidance. I’ve been mentoring for more than twenty years, and since becoming a Life Coach, I’ve personally coached hundreds of women. I’ve created a coaching program for wives-in-waiting to help them position themselves for marriage, using an acronym for the word “WEDDING.” If you want to know more about what I wrote in the section of my book titled The Classroom, get your copy of my book, Positioned for Purpose, When Boaz Calls and learn how to position yourself to be found by Mr. Right. Get a paperback copy or Ebook copy and take 25% off your order today using coupon code “fabulous you”
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