THE CLASSROOM

You prayed for a job. You prepared for the job by searching the Internet to find out what the company does, but you didn’t stop there. You went on to position yourself to be the best candidate by researching some possible questions they might ask you and recording yourself confidently answering them. All the preparation you put into landing that job paid off, and now you’re gainfully employed. Now, if you’re willing to do all that to get a job, doesn’t it make sense to put the same amount of effort or more into preparing for marriage?

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THE COACH

At the age of 41, I went back to college to get a degree. I decided to take online classes because I didn’t want to go the traditional route of sitting in a physical classroom with students my children’s age. So I opted to go online.

The first semester was the most difficult for me because when I made the decision to go back to college, I made a commitment to set aside four hours a day to study for the two classes I was taking every nine weeks. I wanted to make sure I put in the time to get the grades I wanted. The first nine weeks on my new venture, I met weekly with my counselor. One thing he said that stood out to me was, it takes 21 days to form a habit and 90 days to create a lifestyle change. He gave me this piece of advice to let me know that if I hung in there for the first three weeks, I would be well on my way to completing what I started. And guess what? He was right. How was I, a woman in her forties, able to accomplish my goal of earning my college degree? How was I able to stay focused on all those assignments and not throw in the towel when I felt like giving up?

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My Story

Something happened. My first class was titled “Introduction to University Studies,” and in this class we talked about what happens in the classroom, the differences between our peers, and how we must transform our thinking if we want to get a degree. After this class, I was no longer thinking about the differences in age between the students in the online class and me. I was no longer thinking about all the years it had been since I was out of school. I was no longer thinking about how school was going to hold my attention. Now I was thinking, I can do this. I was thinking about all the experience I’d gained over the years in marriage and raising a family that I could share in my writing. I was thinking that I wasn’t just going to be a good student, I was going to be a great student.
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I went from being a wife and mother to being a college student, embarking on a new journey in life. I had a map to guide me in the form of a course syllabus, I had an accountability partner in the form of an academic counselor, and I had a mentor in the form of a teacher who I could e-mail or call when I had concerns or questions about the assignments. I no longer felt all alone on this new journey, but I felt like I could finish what I set out to do. I obtained a Bachelor of Science degree in Human Services so I could work in the social services field and help empower women. I didn’t go to work for anyone. I was already operating in my business, Women of Excellence, but the degree helped me to realize how much more I could help empower women.

The Assignment

In the first nine weeks of my online education, I learned the purpose of the classroom. The classroom is for making mistakes and learning from those mistakes. If we use the knowledge we gain from the mistakes we made in class, we discover a better way. How did I position myself to receive the love I desired and deserved in marriage? How was I able to shift my thinking after being in a toxic relationship and not take all the dead weight I carried from that relationship into a new one? How did I do it? The same way I got my degree. I went into a classroom and was schooled by some women who had something I wanted: a great marriage. I had a marriage mentor and an accountability partner, and they gave me guidance. I’ve been mentoring for more than twenty years, and since becoming a Life Coach, I’ve personally coached hundreds of women. I’ve created a coaching program for wives-in-waiting to help them position themselves for marriage, using an acronym for the word “WEDDING.” If you want to know more about what I wrote in the section of my book titled The Classroom, get your copy of my book, Positioned for Purpose, When Boaz Calls and learn how to position yourself to be found by Mr. Right. Get a paperback copy or Ebook copy and take 25% off your order today using coupon code “fabulous you”

What Readers Say…..

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Sarah F

When we are going to compete, we prepare ourselves physically and mentally.  The same way, we must prepare ourselves for marriage in every way of our lives.  This is a great read for all the single people who are preparing to get married.
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Apostle Cheristerlyn Brooks

God bless you woman of God.  I purchased your book, Positioned for Purpose: When Boaz Calls, and I must say this is an amazing book.  Continue to allow God to use you mighty woman of God.

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Dr. Patricia Shaw, Certified Professional Coach
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Dr. Patricia Shaw, Certified Professional Coach

Teaching women who struggle to move forward in life and love how to go from burn out and overwhelm to living a liberated life. Overflowing with confidence, beaming with clarity, grounded in a committment to who they are.

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