You made it to the third rest stop—Yay!. Now let’s talk about chirping. What the heck is chirping? Well, because I’m so different, I could have used complimenting, but I wanted to leave an impression on you about how important complimenting your spouse is so I want to say “chirping.”
When I think of the word “chirping” one thing comes to mind: a bird. Birds chirp all day because they are so happy. That’s how you should be in your relationship. Happy! I’ve never known a bird not to chirp unless it was dead. Uh-oh, could it be you’re not chirping for your spouse because you feel the relationship is dead? Maybe it’s dead because you don’t see the need or the importance of chirping for your spouse. Well, let me explain it this way. When a man believes, you are his biggest cheerleader, he will do any and everything for you.
“If I could make only one observation about men today, it would be that men are tired, mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually tired.” What Husbands Wish Their Wives Knew about Men, Patrick Morley
Men are just like us when it comes to chirping or receiving compliments. According to Relationship Counselor John Moore who said, “From a psychological perspective, verbalizing heart-filled, genuine compliments is critical to male self-esteem.”
And I’m not talking about those run of the mill, cheesy ones designed to get down a dude’s pants. You can get his list of compliments here: 7 Type of Compliments Men Really Want To Hear
I love when my husband says, “Honey, you wearing that dress,” “sexy momma” that’s his way of chirping at me and showing love with his words. Just as I like him to chirp his feelings to me, he wants to hear from me as well. Husbands become weary, and they need encouraging.
I remember my husband coming home angry one day after a coworker made a racial slur towards him. He was very upset. After telling me what happened, I made time to lift him up with the words I spoke to his heart.
Often, as women, instead of us putting the wind in our husband’s sails, we tear the sail and cause it to deflate and go off course. Chirping your husband’s praise is a form of encouragement. Encouragement gives strength. When you chirp your husband’s praises, it softens his heart towards you and lets him know you are really in his corner.
Do you chirp your husband’s praises? If not, answer these questions and then continue the journey to mission possible.
How often do you say, “You can do it! I believe in you! You’re the best!?”
Is your home a place your husband enjoys returning to every night? If not, ask yourself why?
Do you look for opportunities to chirp praises of love to your spouse?
If you aren’t chirping your spouse’s praise, believe me, Sally down the street is waiting eagerly to do so. If you have been slacking in this area, take some time today, write down a list of compliments you can chirp to your spouse each week. Start today and watch your relationship begin to flourish.
There are many ways we can chirp our spouse’s praise. You can speak words of affirmation over his life daily. Text him love notes and leave short thoughts of how much he means to you in his car. Chirping usually leads to all sorts of good stuff. If you are your husband’s biggest cheerleader, then continue what you’re doing.
The longevity of your relationship depends on it and your husband is depending on it. Keep up the good work, your Chirp mission is fully possible.
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Dr. Patricia Shaw, Master Relationship Coach
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