How did I get here? Why can’t I shake this man? He treats me like less than a person, but I keep going back to him. Those are the words I repeated in my head for the course of our relationship. What started as a childlike love affair ended as a tumultuous tornado.
It was fall of 1989, my junior year of college; the boys’ basketball team was playing our rival school. It was a typical Friday night filled with fun and adventure, but I knew something was different about this Friday, I could just feel it in the atmosphere. I had on my favorite pair of Levi jeans, a red top, and my brown penny loafers. I always dressed to impress, but I was in rare form that Friday night, the Friday that would forever be embedded in my head. The Friday that made me wish I were dead.
For those living with a father only, about 22% live in poverty. In contrast, among children living with both parents, only 11% are counted as poor.
In my bestselling book, Soul Ties, Unchain My Heart, (get your copy now!) about a woman who meets a man and she’s captivated by his outer appearance. Lust captivates the mind while love captures the heart.
What caught her attention? The color of his eyes because at this point she hadn’t even spoken to him.
Lust captivated my heart because I knew nothing about this man. I was only looking at his outward appearance and something on the inside started happening.
In order to have a happy and healthy relationship as women, we must be able to recognize our feelings about the person we’re in a relationship with. In the book, Teresa, did not recognize how Eric was making her feel. In a crowded room, without saying one word to her, he caught her eye and he had her at hello.
As women, when we learn to set boundaries, meaning, you are able to take a step backwards and look at him for who he is, then you can make wise decisions. Many times, as women, we make decisions out of desperation instead of inspiration having little information.
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Dr. Patricia Shaw, Certified Professional Coach
Teaching women who struggle to move forward in life and love how to go from burn out and overwhelm to living a liberated life. Overflowing with confidence, beaming with clarity, grounded in a committment to who they are.